Forgiving is a interesting topic. Forgiveness can mean a lot of things. It can mean i forgive you but keep your distance. It can be i forgive you no matter what Or it can mean i cant ever forgive you at all ( you are dead to me ) i think we as humans all got the " Red line " in forgiveness. What do i mean by that ? well depending on the circumstance , each person decides what type of forgiveness they should enforce.
Lets take for example : You tell your best friend a secret and that friend tells everyone after you told them not too. You will most likely forgive but not forget and act distant ( i forgive but keep your distance )
Person A : will forgive but never forget ( act distant )
Person B : will forgive you and not care ( forgive no matter what )
Person C : will never forgive at all ( You are dead to me )
Another example is : A drunk driver kills one of your family members in a car accident.
Most people will exercise the " i do not forgive you. You are dead to me ". Which is understandable. Believe it or not some people will actually exercise person B.
Now why does this matter ?
well most people will try to argue to forgive no matter what as in thats what " God " wants you to do. I personally think its up to our own judgment to decide what level of forgiveness you want to exercise.
Most people will try to pressure people into always being so forgiving. In most cases you wont ever need to enforce person C unless a big tragedy happens. Thru out your life you will always have to use person A. You can forgive but never forget the actions that stabbed you. Does that mean you still have to interact with that person ? Nope. Does that mean you are required to help that person ? Nope. You forgive them but they stay over there and ill stay over here.
Only SIMPLE accidental mistakes can be forgiving. ( A person accidentally runs into you as he is distracted) We are humans we are not perfect and will always make mistakes.
Purposely hurting someone with the intend to cause harm mentally or physically ( plotting and intentionally looking to hurt you mentally or physically ) Should always end up with you exercising person A. You forgive them but stay away from me.
In terms of B you must be careful with that one. Because although theres no issue on not forgiving someone ever again. You need to release the emotional hold of hatred inside yourself (which is good for your own peace) while still permanently removing the person from your world and not wanting anything to do with them.
In only rear and extreme situations is acceptable to remain unforgiving.
The devil deserves no forgiveness.
Being able to identify your level of tolerance when it comes to forgiveness makes life easier
because now you wont feel guilty of other outside forces trying to tell you what you should do.
Nobody knows you better than yourself.
Bottom line
What’s your red line?
Where do you usually land: A, B, or C?